Adar 22
Divorce
“And
it has been said, ‘Whoever PUTS AWAY his wife, let him give her a CERTIFICATE
OF DIVORCE.’ “But I say to you that whoever puts away his wife, except for the
matter of whoring, makes her commit adultery. And whoever marries a woman who
has been put away commits adultery.” (Mat 5:31-32 ISR, emphasis mine)
“When
a man takes a wife and shall marry her, then it shall be, if she finds no
favour in his eyes because he has found a matter of uncoveredness in her, and
he shall write her a CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE, and put it in her hand, and SEND
HER OUT of his house …” (Deu 24:1 ISR)
The
institute of marriage was created in the Garden of Eden, pure and sinless, and
it is from the Book of Genesis that we find the original instructions
concerning marriage:
“Then Adam said, This [creature] is now bone of my
bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken
out of a man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall
become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”
(Gen
2:23-24 Amp, emphasis mine).
The word translated “cleave” (dâbaq, Strong’s #H1692) literally paints a
picture of being welded and cemented together in such a way that nothing can
come between you. And this IS YHWH’s desire for marriage: first, that it
would be carried out according to the guidelines of Torah, and second, that
there would be no separation between the two individuals.
Marriage
is to be a “covenant” relationship, always directing us towards the
relationship between us and our future Bridegroom, Messiah Yeshua. The word
translated from the Hebrew into our word covenant is the word beriyt
(Strong’s #H1285). As with so much of the Hebrew language, a great deal
is lost in translation, and this word means more than just a covenant, or an
agreement. It also portrays a relationship
between individuals, an established and continually
growing relationship, nurtured and cultivated. The covenant between our
Elohim and Abraham is one example of this, and the marriage covenant between a
husband and wife is another.
Elohim
designed the marriage in such a way that there would be the shedding of blood
in the initial act of intimacy, sealing the covenant, making it one that is
unbreakable. We learn from Eph 5:25 that a husband is to love his wife
with the same covenant commitment as our Messiah loves His body of believers, His Bride. Verses 28 and 29 of
chapter 5 speak of the husband loving, caring, and cherishing his wife as he
does his own body – normally, people do not inflict pain and torment on
themselves, and would consequently not do so to their mates. Because of
his caring love, the wife is then eager to obey and submit to the headship of
her mate.
Because
of the disobedience of Adam and Chavah
(Eve), we know that sin – transgression of YHWH’s Torah - entered into the Garden
of Eden, and corrupted everything, including the marriage relationship.
People’s hearts became totally selfish and self-centered, concentrating on
personal fulfillment and gratification. Turning their desires inward and
becoming self-seeking, mankind was now hard and cruel toward one another.
Divorce, and remarriage, became permissible under Torah (Deu 24:1-4), though it
was never YHWH’s original design. However, an understanding of exactly what Torah says concerning divorce is
needed before we can understand what our Master Yeshua addressed throughout the
Gospels.
In
Deu chapter 24, there are two separate
actions taken against the wife that has not found favor: the sending away, or
dismissing, and then the issue of the certificate of divorce. Two
different and distinct words are used in the Hebrew: Shlicha (Strong's
#H7971), which means to send away, dismiss, or release, and sefer k’ritot
(Strong's #H3748), which is the actual certificate of divorce. The reason the
wife did not find favor is because of
an "uncoveredness",
for which the Hebrew word is ervah (Strong's #H6172), literally
translated as nakedness, but implying an uncleanness due to any and all illicit or illegal sexual
activity. If the wife was merely “sent away”, she was not legally
divorced, and could not re-marry. Only with a corresponding “certificate of divorcement” would
she be allowed to re-marry.
We
find the same separate actions in the passage from Mat chapter 5. Our
Master Yeshua was again emphasizing the need for both actions to take place, and not just the one, the “putting away”. Apparently, at
that time, the norm was for men to “put
away” (Strong's #G630) their wives, without the binding certificate
(Strong's #G647), as evidenced in Mark 10:1-12. We find in verses 11 and
12 of this chapter, Yeshua confirming the reason for both actions to be taken: the “putting away” is not sufficient, it is not a legal release or divorce, and to re-marry without the “certificate of divorce” will
constitute adultery (punishable by death).
In
Matthew 5:31, Yeshua lists fornication (or whoring) as a reason for
putting away and divorce. The Word found here in the Greek is the word porneia
(Strong's #G4202), from which we have our word “pornography”. Porneia involves
all illicit sexual activity, all
perversions, including homosexuality, bestiality, and every form of incest (see
Rom 1:18 through 2:8). We can surmise that sexual abuse was well known
during the days of our Messiah, even as it is today.
What
about other forms of abuse: physical, mental, verbal, emotional? Abuse of
any form is wrong. It is a
violation to abuse someone who is made in the image of our Creator, and is also
the temple of the Holy Breath of YAH. For so many years, the westernized
church has preached a doctrine that because
“God hates divorce” (Mal 2:16), women (and even men!!!) have to stay married,
regardless of the abusive situation they are in. I do not believe this is
correct. Though the ideal marriage would be between two Torah observant
individuals, it is unfortunate that most marriages never start that
way. However, even in these instances where forms of abuse are prevalent
within a marriage, divorce should always be the last option – but it is a valid option.
Divorce
is NOT the "unforgivable
sin". Yes, our Elohim hates divorce, for the trauma, pain,
destruction, and strife that it generates, but to “blanket-ly” say that God
hates all divorce is not
correct. Abraham was told in no uncertain terms to “put away” Hagar, the slave woman
(mother of Ishmael) with whom he had a covenant relationship (see Gen
21:10-14). In Ezra chapter 10, YHWH, through Ezra the priest, instructs
the people of Israel to “put away” all
of the foreign wives that they had taken to themselves during the time of the
captivity – the reason for this "putting
away" being, these wives were pagan and worshipped idols instead of
the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. We cannot be unequally yoked (2Cor 6:14).
There
are men and women, brothers and
sisters, who have been divorced, perhaps for the wrong reasons, and are living
under terrible guilt and condemnation. This guilt is not from our ABBA
Father. Run to ABBA; crawl up into His
lap, and repent of whatever wrong you did. There is still healing for
all of the pain and trauma available, and deliverance from all of the bondage
and damage that has been done. Love covers, His grace and favor knows no
limits, and His mercies are new every morning …
“If,
then, the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.” (John 8:36 ISR)
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