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“If, then, you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother holds whatever against you,  leave your gift there before the altar, and GO, FIRST make peace with your brother, and THEN come and offer your gift..”  (Matthew 5:23-24 ISR, emphasis mine)

"Moreover, if your brother commits a sin against YOU, GO and show him his fault — BUT PRIVATELY, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won back your brother.”  (Matthew 18:15 CJB, emphasis mine)

In Matthew 15:12, the Greek word that has been translated ‘offended is the word ‘skandalizō’ (Strong’s #G4624), and it is ‘kin’ to the root of OUR words ‘scandal’ and ‘scandalize’.  The meaning to this word paints a picture of a trap, or snare, hidden in a type of ambush, such as a pit covered by limbs or tree branches.  ‘Skandalizō’ will generally refer to the conduct, or actions, of the person who is ambushed, or trapped.  Messiah Yeshua told us emphatically that offenses would come (see Matthew 18:7); however, He NEVER made allowances for US to hold on to all of the hurts, crimes and offences done TO us.  All of these grievances will bind and harm us, in our relationship with Elohim, and with our brothers and sisters as well.

When we find ourselves in certain situations involving other people, and we are experiencing feelings of annoyance, irritation, resentment, hurt, bitterness, anger, or other such similar feelings, it is possible we have become offended.  We may have picked up ‘the bait’ the adversary has thrown out for us.  The key now is how WE CHOOSE to react.  If an offense has been committed AGAINST us, the Word of God has given us steps as to how to resolve such a situation:

If another believer sins AGAINST you, go PRIVATELY and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.  But if you are unsuccessful, TAKE ONE OR TWO OTHERS WITH YOU and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses.”  (Matthew 18:15-16 NLT, emphasis mine) 

If WE are the ones that have committed the offense, we see from the opening verses above (Matthew 5:23-24) that WE are responsible to go, and be reconciled with the one who is offended.  Only THEN can we be restored to right relationship with our ABBA Father.  Should we choose not to follow these instructions that are very clear (Yeshua Himself said them), the blame then lies upon ourselves.  We cannot make the claim of walking in the unconditional love of our Father, our Creator, of loving each other as our Lord commanded us to do, if we choose to hold offenses close to us.

“And so I am giving a new commandment to you now—love each other JUST AS MUCH as I love you. Your strong love for each other will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”  (John 13:34-35 TLB, emphasis mine)

“Love … is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its OWN rights or its OWN way, for it is not self-seeking; it is NOT touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes NO ACCOUNT OF THE EVIL DONE TO IT [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].”  (1Corinthians 13:5 Amp, emphasis mine)

©2015 Merete Marx